Does it really matter?

This advent we are taking special effort to de-clutter Christmas, to surgically remove anything that detracts from a godly celebration of the incarnation. The last 2 weeks in our worship services we have discovered that “bigger is not better” and “frenzy is not beneficial.” We are finding that without conscious review, our practices morph into something unintended.

As I thought of the things that get added to our celebrations and practices I thought of the marine creatures known as Barnacles. Wikipedia describes them this way “Barnacles are encrusters, attaching themselves permanently to a hard substrate” and goes on to say there are over 1220 species of barnacles.

One of the “barnacles” that gets attached to the incarnation is the debate as to the date of the birth of Christ—was it 4 B.C.? was it 2 B.C.? was it truly year 0 as the basis of the Julian calendar? If it happened in Winter what were shepherds doing in the fields? What was the “star” that was observed by the Magi and when did it appear? (According to this website, Jesus may have been born on June 17.)

I don’t think this really matters and it is just a distraction from the truth of the incarnation. IMHO, (that’s text language for in my honest opinion) the Bible never instructs us to remember or celebrate the birth of Christ. His Death, Resurrection and 2nd Coming are to be remembered in Baptism and Communion. His Resurrection is to be celebrated on the first day of each week. But his birth was never an event that was ceremoniously observed until hundreds of years later.

Back to my original thought…What are the “barnacles” that get added to your class or small group. Some elements start with very good intention (e.g. snacks/beverages help people to relax and become more open) but then become a distraction from the main purpose (i.e. becoming better followers of Jesus). Sharing of prayer requests can turn into a game of “nobody knows the trouble I’ve seen.” Even the study of God’s Word can become an opportunity to showcase the knowledge or the library of the leader.

Over 20 years ago I heard a quote attributed to a former President of Moody Bible Institute, George Sweeting, “The main thing is to keep the main thing the main thing.”

As we celebrate Advent and lead our groups, are you keeping your eye on the main thing?

Redefining Success

I just read a blog post from a church leader in Oklahoma that I follow. Although he leads a LARGE ministry, he does not define success in numbers. He asks 3 questions that could be asked of Bible Study leaders, Small Group leaders and Sunday School teachers.

1. Is your group successful if you are failing morally in your personal life?
2. Is your group successful if your family is being neglected?
3. Is your group successful if your personal passion for Jesus has grown cold?

If your character is intact, your family is nurtured and your love for Jesus is growing, you may be more successful of a teacher/leader than you realize.

Be ENCOURAGED! If you would like to see the original post and/or read comments on it click the link below.

http://swerve.lifechurch.tv/2008/12/08/successful-ministry-1/

Doing what comes unnaturally…or challenging assumptions.

This morning was the first significant snowfall of this winter. As I came in to the office, our secretary mentioned that it would be a perfect day to cuddle up in a blanket next to the window with a good book. While the women of our family agree that this is the type of day best spent “hunkering down” the men had a different idea! We got up earlier than usual, bundled up and chose to serve our neighbors!

(Full disclosure statement: We just bought a new snowblower so the motivation was more because of the testosterone release of men working with a new power tool than it was in the satisfaction of helping others!)

Now back to the story…after finishing our drive and walkway I cleared the driveway entries where the street plows had piled snow for 4 of our neighbors and cleared the front sidewalk for an elderly couple across the street. The point is that we did not do “what comes naturally”

Yesterday I overheard a couple of families talking about seeing each other at their small group meeting that will be held this evening. One of the individuals had assumed that the group would not be meeting because of the holidays.

I think we often assume people are busy so we think we are doing people a favor by cancelling classes or group meetings. In reality, we may be perpetuating the problem where the “head cheerleader never has a date to prom because everybody assumes she’s already been asked.”

Naturally, a cold day when it gets dark early makes us want to seclude ourselves in our comfortable homes and we assume others may want to retreat to their own homes also. But the holidays and the cold weather provide great opportunities to encourage one another personally, with a phone call, with a personal note or email to the individual members of your group/class.

SAD (seasonal affective disorder) caused by the lack of sunlight and Vitamin D is a very real concern here in the upper Midwest. Some respond with supplements or tanning beds. I wonder if Hebrews 10:25 might be relevant (“Let us not give up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but let us encourage one another—and all the more as you see the Day approaching”). I’m not talking about Sunday morning attendance, I’m suggesting we take steps to encourage one another!

How they Want to Get There

Last week I introduced 3 questions to help your students/small group leaders: 1) Where are they? 2) Where do they want to go? and 3) How do they want to get there?  This week we focus on that third question.

My GPS system allows me to specify if I want to avoid toll roads or if I prefer Interstates to county roads. The designers of these systems have figured that some people prefer quick, others prefer short, and others prefer scenic. In the same way, your class or small group represents different preferences. Some prefer experience, some prefer story, and some prefer logic.

I was reminded this morning that information alone is not enough to bring about change. The Surgeon General’s warning has appeared on cigarette packages for decades and some young smokers have never touched a cigarette package without that warning label. However, many have not quit because the information alone is inadequate to motivate change.

I am taking an online class and one assignment was to ask 3 people to rate your listening ability on a scale of 1-10. All of the family members I asked gave me a “6” largely because I hear the facts but don’t listen to the emotion behind it.

Ask your learners what they prefer—words/stories, thoughts/ideas, or experiences. Some leaders have found their most productive lesson of the year is when they actually DO something compassionate rather than just talk about compassion. Few people can remember an outline from last Sunday’s sermon, but they remember a story told 5 years ago. Others “check out” when the group goes off on rabbit trails of individual stories and are frustrated until you “get back to” the lesson (maybe the stories ARE the lesson).

I am learning that a skillful teacher doesn’t look for students who learn according to his preferred method, but a skillful teachers looks for methods appropriate to the preferred learning styles of the learners.

A Reason for Thanks and prayer

I have heard in recent months about increased persecution of Christians in India. This is personal to me because in 2002 I taught for a week at a Bible College and spoke to 200 pastors at a pastors’ conference in Orissa (the State where all this is going on).

 

I have some other pictures of the students and pastors who attended but will not post them here to protect them from the people described in the story below.

In America we think of a “pastor” as someone who has attended years of College and/or Seminary and somebody who has been a believer in Christ for several years and demonstrated maturity. Many of the “pastors” in India have no more training and no larger congregation than small group leaders in the USA. Using their language, YOU would most likely be considered a “pastor”

In Orissa, Hindu extremists are offering $250 (about a year’s wages) for any Christian pastor who is killed.

I share this for 2 reasons: 1) motivate thanksgiving that God has placed you where he has and 2) mobilize prayer for your persecuted brothers and sisters in Christ. Would you join me in remembering them at your Thanksgiving celebration?

Click here for the story reported in World Net Daily.

Trivial or Telling?

I just found a website with graphics of the cross references in the Bible--where passages refer to one another. It will amaze you to see the relationship between various human contributors and both Old and New Testaments. How could 40 different human authors have this level of interactivity if not led by one Divine author?

click here

Maps vs. GPS

Since I am obsessed with details and plans over the years I have accumulated quite a collection of maps. Then about 8 years ago I was introduced to a computer program called MapPoint which allowed me to reduce my box of maps to one computer disk. Last Spring I bought my wife a GPS unit. So instead of wading through a vast pile of maps, This new tool gives me the information I need (usually) in a very user friendly manner. The device basically only needs 3 pieces of information 1) where am I, 2) where do I want to do, and 3) How do I want to get there (shortest or fastest).

As a teacher I have often been guilty of “displaying my atlas” to the students when they simply wanted to know which turns to take.

A few years ago I learned a new technique that has increased my effectiveness as a teacher. It is amazingly simple—ask the student what he wants to learn.

I am currently taking an online class for professional development and the pre-class work involved answering the question “Why are you taking this class?” In our Membership classes we always start with “tell us a little something about your faith background” and “Why are you taking this class at this time in your life?” That foundation shapes how I present the material throughout the course.

So, what about the group/class you are leading. Do you know where your students are spiritually, emotionally, academically? Do you know what your students/participants expect out of your time together? Do you know how they want to get there? (Check back next week when I will address this third piece of the puzzle).

If you don’t even know what your target is, you’ll never know if you hit it.

The Top Reasons to be part of a Small Group

1. To be an answer to prayer that more people are gathered around God's Word.
2. To really get to know a group of people that you would otherwise just say "Hi" to.
3. To frustrate the devil.
4. To realize that other Christians have questions and struggles like you do.
5. To laugh and enjoy the company of others.
6. To encourage somebody else who needs it
7. Two words: good snacks
8. To find out that you have something in common with others you did not know.
9. To give your couch a rest once a month while you go sit on someone else's

And the number 1 reason for joining a small group is:

• TO MAKE GOD SMILE AND THE ANGELS DANCE THAT HIS PEOPLE GROWING IN HIS GRACE AND PEACE

Credit must go to Andy Wojdula for inspiring this list. It has been edited very little from the version he sent to me.

Monday Encourager - November 3, 2008

With all the negative campaign ads leading up to tomorrows election, here is a flashback to 1938.

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"Fnally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things" Philippians 4:8

How You Say What You Say

Last week I wrote about the sense of URGENCY that is often lacking in our groups, which allows us to slip into mediocrity. On the other hand, an over-stated sense of urgency can undermine our intended results. In our services yesterday, our worshipper were asked to consider if the world hates Christians because of what we believe or because of how we communicate it. This morning I received an email link to a video of a preacher who has s real sense of urgency for a particular issue. His urgency for a Biblically justified position prompts him to speak in harsh and judgmental tone toward any who disagree with his conclusions. One sad side effect is that some who may agree with his conclusion are so offended by his delivery that they never hear the whole message. I was taken in my mind to Queen Esther in the Bible. She definitely had a sense of urgency as she had come to conclude that all of her life events had prepared her for "such a time as this." But even with a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity, she took the time to consider HOW to best communicate her message to the king. As leadership is a function of INFLUENCE. I challenge you to maximize your influence by seeking wisdom in how you communicate with others. I know I have often missed the mark in this area. I have often been driven by right motives, but poor methods have hindered my ability to accomplish God's purpose.

A Sense of Urgency

Over the weekend I received a blog posting speaking about the need for URGENCY. This morning I received a copy of a devotional that reminded me of Screwtape's dialogue with Wormwood in C.S. Lewis' Screwtape Letters. The point of this devotional is that one of Satan's tools is to lull believers into complacency. As a student I have been in classes where it was very clear that the teacher had no sense of urgency in the material. And that sense of complacency had a great bearing on how little I enjoyed (or got out of) the class. For this week's encourager I would like to challenge you to ask yourself if there is any sense of urgency in the content of your lesson or the purpose for gathering. If you have trouble identifying a motivation, I offer article 9 of the newly accepted Statement of Faith of our denomination: We believe in the personal, bodily and premillennial return of our Lord Jesus Christ. The coming of Christ, at a time known only to God, demands constant expectancy and, as our blessed hope, motivates the believer to godly living, sacrificial service and energetic mission.

What Does your Room set-up communicate?

If somebody walked into your meeting room before your students/participants began to arrive, what priorities would they assume? Is your goal interaction or instruction? Is there a hierarchy within the room? Are the chairs all facing one direction? facing each other?

Some small-group directors will call me and say, "We've got four or five small groups in our church, and all they do is socialize." And I say, "Good. Let them just socialize. That's an important part of Christianity. It's an important part of their life." Now, I would guess that if I attended those groups, the homes themselves would be set up in a social way. There would be a lot of food. There would be a lot of room for just standing and talking. There would be couches and chairs set up in little pockets. That's an environment that is conducive to natural connection. But in most small groups, we switch that off and move everyone to a round circle so that eight or ten of us can see each others' faces. But when that happens, you've just changed the environment. Let's be real—none of us sit around in a circle with eight or ten people in the normal course of our lives (unless we're at a business meeting). It's just not a natural way to connect in our culture. So when we gather everyone in a circle after they've been connecting, we're communicating that something is changing. We're doing something different. And after a few times, the group members begin to understand that we're moving into a learning mode—that someone is going to teach us something. That's not a bad thing. We just need to realize that we change the intimacy level when we change the environment.

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Life Transformation or Christian Education?

What makes the difference between a class/study that is a “data transfer” and one that facilitates spiritual transformation?

If asked to describe “spiritual disciplines” most people will give things done in privacy like prayer, Scripture reading, fasting, Scripture memory, etc. and they are often things that are viewed as burdens. A couple of years ago I was introduced to the phrase “spiritual practices.” That are the behaviors that we choose to practice that yield the results we desire?

Below are some practices that may alter your class/study/small group.

“When we are alone, it's easy to think, incorrectly, that we are spiritually advanced. I can watch a Hallmark commercial alone and find myself moved to tears. I tell myself that I am a very compassionate person. But when I spend time in community with a person who annoys me, it's amazing how quickly I experience "compassion fatigue."

In community we discover who we really are and how much transformation we still require. This is why I am irrevocably committed to small groups. Through them we can accomplish our God-entrusted work to transform human beings.

However, experience tells us that simply meeting with a small group does not automatically result in spiritual growth. There are certain practices that must be present, spiritual disciplines that must occur, to facilitate the transforming work of Christ in us. The presence of these things is what makes the difference between all-too-typical small groups, and life-transforming communities of spiritual formation.

What are these practices? I don't think I have the definitive answer, but I have observed five essential practices:”

Confession: remove the masks

Application: look in the mirror

Accountability: stand on the scale
Guidance: follow the map
Encouragement: embrace each other

To read more from the author of the above quote and list (including explanations and illustrations of each one) click here.

Theology in Aisle 7

One of the joys of teaching others is that we do theology in the real world and our answers must apply to real situations. This is often messier than many of us are comfortable with. I just read an interesting piece about our attempts to understand theology and explain it to others.

I've been searching for frameworks, outlines, contexts; ways to more thoroughly understand what I believe. The studies I've chosen emphasize systematic theology. The very word systematic gives me that Aisle 7 rush. I can hardly wait to be organized!

But there are people—wise, godly people—who grin at me like my husband did at my organizer. "Do you think," asked my friend Barbara, who happens to be a theology professor, "that part of you is looking for control?" I stared at her blankly. No, part of me isn't looking for control. All of me is looking for control. I hate chaos and uncertainty. I am deeply bothered by doctrinal divisions within even the small confines of my own church tradition.

And honestly, I really don't like it when God behaves unpredictably, when he seems to be as much about mystery as he is about revelation, and when he refuses to fit into the slots I have labeled for him.

If these thoughts resonate with you, I encourage you to click on the original article below and contemplate the tension between organization and mystery.

Theology in Aisle 7 | Christianity Today | A Magazine of Evangelical Conviction

Is God to Blame for Natural Disasters?

Due to all the media coverage of Hurricanes Gustav and Ike, if you haven't been asked, you can be pretty confident that your students/participants are wondering about the role of God in Natural Disasters.

I did a quick survey in my own mind and was able to identify rain storms as a significant event in many Biblical stories. Noah's flood was just the beginning. Jonah was thrown overboard because a storm threatened the lives of the crew. Jesus' disciples feared for their lives because of a storm at sea. Paul was shipwrecked in Acts 27 due to a storm. It is clear that storms can be used to accomplish the will of God.

Hear me clearly! I am NOT saying storms are always God judgment on evil and I am NOT saying that all the outcomes of a disaster are "good"! I AM saying that God can use storms and "natural" disasters to accomplish things that cannot be accomplished by other means. For example, the Tsunami in Indonesia a few years ago and more recently in Myanmar opened the doors for Christians to demonstrate godly compassion in ways that their governments and other religions were unable to accomplish.

For more thoughts about the reasons for disasters and ways you can use these discussions in your class/small group to build faith check out the link below.

We would be interested to hear your comments. How have you been able to see God at work in events that first appeared to be a disaster?

Is God to Blame for Natural Disasters? | Building Small Groups

Who will be left in the church?

About 2 years ago David Morrow released a book entitled "Why Men Hate Going to Church" which quickly gained popularity among the Evangelical Men's Movement. Men were claiming that many churches had become too feminine for their liking.

Last week I read a blog posting that says women are leaving churches because male-dominated hierarchies are irrelevant to their values.

Could it be that both of the authors are speaking for individuals who wish to be served because they dislike the Christian message of "take up your cross and follow Christ"?

Yes, RELIGION can be described as both feminine and male-dominated when God's perspective is ignored. However a RELATIONSHIP with the living God, in whose image we are created, can honor both genders.

Consider the two quotes below...

The ideology of masculinity has replaced Christianity as the true religion of men. We live in a society with a female religion and a male religion: Christianity, of various sorts, for women and non-masculine men; and masculinity . . . for men.

"Young women tend to express egalitarian values and dislike the traditionalism and hierarchies they imagine are integral to the church"

For more on each perspective, check out the sources below.

Why Men Hate Church

'Buffy the Vampire Slayer' Inspires Women to Leave Churches

Defining Success

It has been over 30 years since I took a Hunter Safety Course, but one of the lessons I remember is "always be sure of your target" and "consider what you might hit if you miss your target." As Christian leaders we must also be careful about what we pursue.

Below are some thoughts from a ministry colleague.

Most of us would agree that measuring success is critical. If we don't know what we are after we won't know if we were successful. The trick is knowing what we ought to measure.

Take the local church for instance. It is common to measure the number of people who attend weekly. The higher our attendance, the higher our success. How often do we ask, "How many people attend your church?"

If numbers are our definition of success we are driven to increase the numbers and with a little marketing moxie one can do that. No problem.

Except - the New Testament definition of success for the church is not numbers but spiritual maturity - becoming like Jesus (Ephesians 4).

For the rest of the post click here - Leading From the Sandbox: Measuring Success: What counts?

Ski Boat or Cruise Ship

Are you captain of a ski boat or a Cruise ship? A ski boat makes a lot of noise, has a burst of sudden energy and 1-2 people get out of the water. A cruise ship slowly pulls out of the dock and gradually builds momentum with a result that hundreds of people are taken to a new place.

The last few weeks we have put a lot of emphasis on training leaders, publicizing groups/classes, and recruiting participants. Some may be tired and thinking “Whew! I’m glad that is behind me. Now I can get down to the business of leading.” But is it behind you?

Multiplying leaders of OPEN groups are continuously (yes, some seasons are more intense than others) looking for new leaders to coach and new participants to assimilate. I am not saying that you should be discontent with those whom God has compelled already, but that Heaven’s economy always has room for more. (Remember the parable of the Great Banquet in Luke 14:15-23)

Ask the Lord to reveal ways your group/class can increase in significance and influence to move as many people as possible to the place God wants them to go.

4 levels of Learner

Not all students are created equal. While I agree with the mantra of public education that "every student can learn" The readiness (ability & willingness) of students varies. Have you seen the following students in your class or small group?

Circumstantial Guests – These are the kids who may get stuck in a class because their family is visiting Grandma’s church and the parents are in the sanctuary. You may never see them again but you have a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity to impress upon on them God’s love.

Curious Observers – These are the students who have heard all the promotion about classes starting and they will try it 3 or 4 weeks, if they perceive there is value they will continue. If you don’t capture their hearts in that time frame, it will simply go into the archives as an opportunity missed.

Consistent Participants – These are the students who perceive there is value to the group, but they don’t feel like they have anything of value to contribute. You will do well to cautiously draw them out by asking non-threatening questions directly of them or assigning them tasks that have low-risk. (For kids this could mean handing out the Bibles or delivering the attendance sheet to the office or collecting the crayons after the project. For adults it could be providing refreshments or arriving 10 minutes early to run the vacuum or arrange chairs or prepare a sign-up sheet). Extra caution must be used when you ask these individuals to pray or read out loud or you could lose them altogether!

Committed Core – These are the students who make your group a priority—their week just doesn’t seem complete if they miss your group. Often they will be eager to accelerate the group by suggesting meeting more frequently or asking for extra assignments between sessions. One key to leading this type of student is in establishing a manageable pace. Yes, they must be challenged but you must guard that the person does not exchange spiritual passion for legalistic performance. Some will appear committed to your class/group but their first motivation is meeting their emotional need for attention. Your goal is to keep them focused on the Savior.

What have you found to be effective methods of moving people from one level to the next?

Leaders of Big Groups are Dangerous

Remember what the great missionary Samuel Morris said about developing leaders:

“The greatest leaders are not those who win the most followers. Such leaders are often dangerous to the institution. They become mob leaders, demagogues and dictators. The greatest leadership is that which creates other leaders. Christianity depends for its preservation upon the capacity to pass on the torch of leadership from one generation to another.”

Steve Sonderman offers some good insights into how you can be developing leaders rather than a dangerous leader at this website

Perception and Reality

watch here then read below

When have you made decisions or based your actions upon your perception, just to find out what you thought was true, wasn't actually true? I know I have focused my attention upon a person whom I thought was opposing me, just to find out that this particular person was not my enemy, but Satan was using him. Scripture says that we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities and powers.

There have been other times when I polled a small population and assumed their conclusions represented the larger group. When I created an action plan based upon the opinions of the few then received a pushback from the larger group, I learned that my perceptions are not always reality.

The players in the video above actively receive input, interpret the input they receive and create an action plan. But their action plan does not achieve the intended results because their perceptions are not reality.

Counselors know that often the "presenting problem" is not the real reason the client is in their office. To bring about real change requires discerning the real problem.

Teaching that Transforms

I recently ran across an interesting article that is several years old, but is relevant to any individual involved in Christian Education or Spiritual formation. I only included Dr. Hendrick's main points. If you want to read his explanations you'll have to click on the link at the bottom of this post.

Teaching that Transforms
What makes Christian education distinct from its secular counterpart.
by Howard Hendricks

This article was originally written for all Christian educators, both inside the church and out. It has been adapted to focus on small-group teachers and facilitators.

As a Christian educator, my goal is not to lecture, or even to lecture with excellence. My goal is to teach in such a way that students both learn and employ their knowledge. Teachers should view themselves as nothing less than disciplers. The knowledge we communicate affects more than the minds of our hearers; it should change lives.

In particular, I want to see the members of my group develop five qualities as a result of my teaching.

• Deepening Commitment to Christ
• Growing in Character
• Showing Competence to Live Out the Faith
• Creative in Ministry
• Effective Communicators

Teaching that Transforms | Building Small Groups

Super Star in a Team Sport.

I don't want to presume to speak for the attitudes or motives of another person. My perceptions may be totally wrong, but since I live in Wisconsin and am at least a casual football fan I must share an observation about Brett Favre's trade to the Jets.

I don't doubt that Favre can still outplay most quarterbacks in the league. But Football is meant to be a team sport. Most coaches will say that a winning team requires skill in offense, defense and special teams. A quarterback will never be better than the offensive line that protects him. A running back will never rush for 1000 yards if teammates do not perform well.

The Wisconsin news media repeatedly reported that Aaron Rodgers had earned the respect of the rest of the team and they were eager to follow his leadership. He had developed the trust and loyalty in the locker room that could translate into an effective team on the field. (One sportscaster even reported that Favre did not dress with the rest of the team in the 07-08 season).

As a fan of the KC Chiefs I watched as Joe Montana and Marcus Allen gave their last few years to a team other than the one where they are most remembered. Even with superstars like the these, the team was never a serious contender for the SuperBowl.

I guess is comes back to a line from the movie Drumline, "You used to like the sound of the line more than the sound of your own drum."

The cause of Christ is more important than the popularity of one believer. Body needs to take preference over individual members.

Never Underestimate the Importance of a Good Party

I just found a good article that highlights the social needs of people that can be met through a small Group. The bullet list below are the section headings of the article. If they pique your interest I encourage you to check out the link below for more details.

• God Loves a Good Party
• Never underestimate the importance of a good party.
• Deepening Relationships
• Discipleship Opportunities
• Retaining Visitors and New Members
  

There is practically no limit to what you can do for fun as a group. You can have a group picnic, go to a baseball game, have a married couples' date night, go camping, have a cookout, go bowling, play volleyball, go out to eat at a nice restaurant, play board games, and so much more. Just make sure you invite as many unchurched people and unconnected church members as possible.

Never Underestimate the Importance of a Good Party | Building Small Groups

Make Time to Renew

A blogger whom I respect and often quote on this blog writes the following about finding the balance between activity and passivity.

When we run too fast, we easily lose perspective. When we are lazy we give up spiritual influence. The trick is to live with intentionality, pay attention to the important things – the big rocks and build in opportunities for refreshment.

If you need more reasons to schedule renewal into your schedule read the rest of his thoughts at the link below.

Leading From the Sandbox: Emotional, spiritual and physical refreshment

Next Generation Leaders

Does this sound familiar? You have a very talented and skillful leader of a ministry. He/she leads that ministry with great effectiveness for several years until (s)he gets worn out and requests a break. Because the ministry has a reputation for effectiveness, it is difficult to recruit new leaders because they fear the task is too daunting.

If the Leadership replacement cycle had begun a year or two earlier, the ministry will be less likely to skip a beat, the retiring leader will have less anxiety about handing over the baton, and the new leader will have greater confidence to take risks.

Read below to gain the perspective of an emerging leader in a global missions organization.

One primary reason is that there is a misconception of what the next generation of leaders is looking for. They are not looking for power, control, leading alone, having the sole voice at the table, or taking away credit and credibility from those who have worked so hard before us.

Someone in a meeting used the following metaphor: It is time to hand over the keys to the next generation of leaders and get out of the way. I pushed back on this metaphor. I agreed that, as a representative of this next generation, I would like the opportunity to have the keys, but I don’t want that current leader out of the car. I want them in the passenger seat right next to me mentoring and coaching (not controlling or micromanaging), allowing me to make a wrong turn at times for the purpose of learning and refining.

Leading From the Sandbox: Raising up the next generation of leaders

Numbness of Frequency

A few people asked me at the beginning of the Summer why we discontinue Small Groups for 3 months. The Blog post below highlights one of the problems we are trying to address with our Summer hiatus.

Now that Groups will be starting in about a month we don't have to fear the Numbness of Frequency. I encourage you to  get out the phonebook and call those who participated in your group last year to begin building excitement for the Joyfulness of New Beginnings.

When we consistently communicate the same thing in the same way, it falls on deaf ears. I call it the Numbness of Frequency, and we see it at play in many different arenas. For example:

• When you send the same e-newsletter on the same day at the same time with the same layout. – Numbness of Frequency
• When, as a speaker, you continually use the same approach to say the same thing again and again. – Numbness of Frequency
• When you cannot wait for Krispy Kreme to come to your town… A month later after the store opens, you do not want to see another confections delight. – Numbness of Frequency
• When you keep the same information in your lobby in the same location saying the same thing week after week. – Numbness of Frequency
• When a key volunteer loses their passion for something they were so excited about doing. – Numbness of Frequency

The principle is simple. When exposed to the same stimulus on a routine basis, most of the time, we become numb to it.

Guest Blog - Sam Roberts - LifeChurch.tv : swerve

How to Spend a Day Alone with God

Recently I have been reading a lot about "Personal Retreat Days" or "Mini Spiritual Retreats." I assume that many of you think that this is a luxury only for fulltime Christian workers. But Spiritual health should be just as high a priority (if not higher) than physical health.

Employers hardly give a second thought if an employee asks for time off to visit their Doctor. A few years ago I was introduced to the idea of a "Mental Health Day" which is the employee's version of the school kids' activity known as "playing hooky".

Yesterday I was visiting with a man who had just finished a health screening for his employer. Since I had recently done a similar screening when joining a fitness club we both were shocked at how many questions deal with emotional health. I am deeply committed that much of what is treated as mental health or emotional health is integrally connected to spiritual health.

So, consider making the time for a one-day spiritual retreat. Below are some ideas from John Ortberg on the details of how to maximize the experience.

I was intimidated the first time I tried spending an entire day in solitude. Putting some structure on the day helps. Here are some suggestions.

Spend a brief time getting ready the night before. Ask God to bless the day, and tell him you want to devote the day to him. This day is your gift to God, but of course even more than that, it is a gift God wants to give to you. What do you need the Lord to give you: A sense of healing and forgiveness? Conviction for an apathetic heart? Compassion? A renewed sense of mission?

Arrange the day around listening to God. Here's a format I've adapted from Glandion Carney's book The Spiritual Formation Toolkit:

To read the actual schedule check out the link below.

I think all our readers would be delighted to hear your comments. When has a spiritual retreat benefited you? What obstacles do you face when thinking about taking a Personal Retreat Day?

How to Spend a Day Alone | Articles | BuildingChurchLeaders.com

Fishing for True Small-Group Leaders

I found the following list of qualities to look for in a potential small group leader. What do you think? What would you add to the list? What would you leave off?

Deep, daily spirituality. The leader has a clearly focused faith that pervades both personal and professional life.

Intentional confidentiality. The leader invites immediate trust and gives reliable guarantees to preserve secrets.

Unswerving fidelity. The leader demonstrates loyalty in personal relationships with no hint of sexual exploitation, or flirtatious or abusive behavior.

Commitment to equality. The leader avoids stereotypes of race, gender, generation, or lifestyle. He or she encourages respect and treats others with fairness.

Personal humility. The leader is always eager to learn and grow. He or she does not fear ambiguity or paradox.

Self-directed, self-disciplined. The leader works hard toward clear goals, with an internalized motivation for excellence.

Habitual patience. The leader waits and prays for the work of the Holy Spirit and does not rush people or prematurely resolve differences.

Gentleness. The leader is kind and sympathetic; he or she recognizes and assists others to overcome obstacles.

Courageous perception. The leader sees the point in situations and faces contradiction; he or she identifies the crux of decision-making.

People focus. The leader prioritizes people above issues, dialogue above agendas, and growth above success.

Inclusive behavior. The leader is sensitive to silence, invites people to participate, and is alert to the fringes of groups.

Fishing for True Small-Group Leaders | Building Small Groups

Leaders and followers

I just read the following paragraph from one of the blogs I follow. TJ has much to say about the balance between being a good leader and a good follower.

Click the link at the bottom for the rest of TJ's post.

I am often amazed and saddened by the number of people in Christian ministry who call themselves leaders who really want no authority above them. At its worst it results in narcissism where leaders start to not only ignore the authority above them but to mistreat and violate those who report to them. There is a connection between respect for authority and respect for those for whom we are the authority.

Leading From the Sandbox: Leaders and followers

What Atheists really believe

I just found a quiz taken from Al Mohler's newest book Atheism Remix. We complain that the world misunderstands and misrepresents us as evangelicals. Are we guilty of the same?  Click on the link below and find out.

Resources for Bloggers - Atheism Remix - DeMossNewsPond.com

Developing People

A phrase I use often around our church is "each person needs a Paul, a Barnabas, and a Timothy--someone who mentors you, someone who encourages you, and someone you are coaching."

One of the values we are in the process of embedding in our leadership community is that "you are not done leading until you have developed your replacement."

I enjoyed the following thoughts from a Pastor in Oklahoma.

Here are ten lessons I’ve learned about developing people:

1. Honest, immediate, and consistent feedback on performance is invaluable.
2. Developing strengths nets a bigger return than developing weaknesses.
3. Developing others takes a ton of time in the early seasons and produces huge results with smaller investments in future seasons.
4. You will see a better ministry return by investing in your star team members than you will by investing in weaker players.
5. You will have to allow people to fail if you want them to improve.
6. Great coaches are great encouragers.
7. If you don’t schedule intentional time for developing others, you aren’t likely to do it.
8. God can use you to pull more out of a person than the person may believe exists.
9. The person you are developing can also help develop you—if you will ask questions and listen.
10. The best people builders develop others to develop others.

Developing People - LifeChurch.tv : swerve

N. T. Wright Takes on Stephen Colbert

While I disagree with much of what N.T. Wright concludes is our responsibility now (I believe a literal Millennial reign will take place before the final, eternal state) in light of the reality of the eternal state, I do appreciate what he says about the future state after the 2nd Resurrection--the fact that we will have our earthly bodies renewed and rejoined with our souls. This is what we called "Conditional Unity" in the Anthropology section of the course I teach called "Maximum Impact."

This 6 minute clip will make you think twice about life after death.

MondayMorningInsight.com > N. T. Wright Takes on Stephen Colbert

The Christian Pop Culture

I just found an interview at Christianity Today that really intrigued me. Apparently there is a humanist Jewish gentleman who has written a book about his perceptions of Christian Pop Culture. This is a good read to help understand the preconceived ideas that many that we are trying to reach actually have of us.

In the interview the author admits one of my pet peeves, namely, there are several "strains" under the label of "Christian" and failing to understand these distinctions will lead to wrong conclusions.

"That is in many ways our fault as non-Christians for not making the effort to make such distinctions. If the awareness is not there, it's partly because these people are often choosing not to identify as Christian in the same way, partly because they don't want to be tarred by that brush. And I think that's unfortunate in many ways because I think what they're doing is very Christian in the best ways, and that by ceding that word to the forces they don't particularly like, they're doing a disservice to the faith."

The link below will take you to the interview.

In Rapture Ready! Adventures in the Parallel Universe of Christian Pop Culture, Radosh describes his experiences with the Cornerstone Music Festival, Christian comedians, creationist Ken Ham, Bibleman, Ultimate Christian Wrestling, Jay Bakker, and others.

Actually, he concludes, merging pop culture and Jesus isn't as bad as he expected:

The Christian Pop Cultures of Rapture Ready | Christianity Today | A Magazine of Evangelical Conviction

A Definition of Leadership

I just found the link below which is an excellent 4 minute video on the definition of leadership. I don't know anything about Mr. Peters, so please do not consider this link as an endorsement of anything else he says (it may or may not be good, I simply don't know).

Mr. Peters says leadership is the same in the 21st century AD as it was in the 21st century BC. "The essence of leadership is to induce people to become more than they think they can become."

Tom Peters on the Definition of Leadership on Vimeo

Why do I run away from what I want most?

    The following thoughts come from a 1995 book by Thomas Kirkpatrick entitled Small Groups in the Church: A handbook for creating community,

     I hope these thoughts may encourage you to intentionally set aside some time over the summer months for your group members to connect with each other!

In a book called The Different Drum, M. Scott Peck suggests that while we want intimacy, we often run from it. Perplexing, isn't it? We want to be honest and open, but we are not willing to risk being ourselves in a group of sisters and brothers.

If and when we are honest with ourselves, we know we need other people. While the rugged individualism of our time surely runs counter to this reality, there are additional issues that we often overlook. Here are four factors that influence our paradoxical need for, and fear of, community.

The Issue of Confidentiality
Lack of trust—or the issue of confidentiality—is one factor that helps us explain this push/pull paradox. Grapevine communication is so pervasive in many small communities and rural areas that people guard themselves against revealing personal information with virtually anyone. Why should we in the church expect to be any different from the community at large in risking self-disclosure?

Overcoming such a deeply ingrained and often well-founded fear is not an easy accomplishment for planners of community. Assurance of confidentiality is needed before many will even consider joining a small group, and it is a ground rule that groups should adopt and follow right from the start.

The Issue of Truth
A second factor influencing this push/pull dynamic of intimacy is the difficulty we human beings have in facing the truth about ourselves. When we are afraid to face our true selves, and when we deceive others, we tend to flee relationships—with God, with ourselves, and also with others.

The Issue of Size
Numbers do matter. We cannot develop sufficiently close personal relationships in large groups. Relational development literature, in fact, tells us that it is difficult to experience intimacy in our interpersonal relationships in groups of more than six to ten people. Consequently, unless we plan and develop new or additional opportunities for group life, we severely curb both our Christian koinonia and our outreach to others.

The Issue of Time Management
Rearranging time commitments is a challenge that needs to be confronted if community is to become a priority. Again, desiring community is only half the equation—the need or "pull" to intimacy. The "push" away from intimacy can be as simple as an overscheduled calendar.

The Paradox of Community | Building Small Groups

Seven Advantages of Sermon-Based Small Groups

One of our Small Groups at SLEFC is Sermon-Based. One of our sister churches near San Diego has used this model for over 20 years. Following are 7 advantages observed by the pastor of that church. If you want to read detailed explanations of the Seven, click on the citation at the end of the post.

They Increase the Educational Impact
They Pull in the Marginally Interested
They Reach More People
They Sharpen the Church-Wide Focus
They Mainstream New Believers
They Eliminate Idiot Questions
They Help with Leadership Recruitment

Seven Advantages of Sermon-Based Small Groups | Building Small Groups

You Have Questions, We Have....

The phrase above was a tagline in a marketing campaign a few years ago. Thirty years ago I was told I could rely on information from the "Shell Answer Man."

Today many theologians claim that there are no answers...just discussions. I disagree with that notion strongly! But I also know that the appropriate response to a question is not always my answer. In Mark 8 Jesus modeled that as a teacher we should not only provide answers, but also ask good question. The link at the bottom of this post will take you to Dave Arch's explanation of these 8 uses of questions that Jesus employed.

1. Answering with Questions (Mark 8:5)
2. Gathering Data (Mark 8:5, 19-21)
3. Making Statements (Mark 8:12)
4. Communicating Passion (Mark 8:17-18)
5. Correcting (Mark 8:21)
6. Seeking Feedback (Mark 8:23)
7. Encouraging Personal Application (Mark 8:27-29)
8. Soul Searching (Mark 8:36-37)

Small Groups - Asking Questions Like the Master Teacher

Bring Yourself to the Presentation

I found a great post that could refine your approach to teaching. One of the admonitions in Scripture is to "speak the truth in love." Love is NEVER abstract or theoretical--It is always personal. When we attempt to communicate the Truth of God's Word without allowing it to impact us personally and sharing how it has impacted us, we just may be guilty of speaking the truth without love.

What do you think about these thoughts from another Christian communicator and leader? His original thoughts were focused on "preaching" but I have changed them to "teaching." I especially like his reference to the "authentic-meter."

Every year, I personally mentor a handful of young speakers. Most of the speakers I work with don’t struggle with researching the text, teaching creatively, building meaningful outlines, or pointing people toward the gospel. Most of the communicators I see struggle to bring all of themselves to a message.

When you preach or teach, you must bring you. Without you in, around, and through the message, you will not impact today’s listener.

The younger audience today has a built in authentic-meter. You can teach with passion, humor, clever points, or heart-wrenching stories. But if the scriptures haven’t touched your life, the listener will know it—and ignore your well-crafted message.

People want to know:

• How has the text affected you?
• How have you failed in the area(s) the Scripture addresses?
• What about the text makes you uncomfortable?
• What do you feel about what scripture is saying? (I know our feelings don’t trump scriptural truth, but talking about how we feel about the text can help engage others to listen at a deeper level.)
• How are you becoming different because of your study in God’s word?

Authentic and Transparent Communication at LifeChurch.tv : swerve

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Community

Chuck Swindoll is known to have said that he is hoping for 6 friends who would carry his casket without looking at their watches. I think a person who easily identifies these 6 people is a person who is living in community.

I found the following article that differentiates between having friends and living in community.

I've been thinking a lot about community lately. I'll confess I believe I'm missing a skill set. I don't really know how to form community. Is this a lost art, or is it just me? Sure, I know how to make friends. I have terrific coworkers, whom I consider friends. I have friends at church, I'm friendly with my neighbors, and we get together regularly with other families we consider our friends. Many of our friends are scattered throughout the country, and some of them overseas—but we keep in touch.

But I don't think a network of friends necessarily equals a living, breathing community of people. Come to think of it, most of my friends don't even know each other. I can bounce from one friend to another—or one group to another—without a second thought. Even my church feels like a nice weekly gathering of people I barely know. I am not surrounded by a tightly woven web of people who experience life together.

Perhaps community life has become a lost element of our society, its formation a lost art. Where are the bridge parties, ice cream socials, dinner parties, barn dances, and block parties hosted by people who actually live on the block, rather than sponsored by Pepsi?

I used to think it was weird to see silver serving sets, complete sets of beautiful china, ice buckets, crystal glasses, and other entertainment accessories in the homes of people who had been around for a while. Seemed like a waste—all those beautiful elements saved up for special occasions. Maybe it was a waste, I don't know. I'm not planning to go out a buy a silver set anytime soon. But something about it actually makes sense to me. It suggests that people valued hospitality and community, and saw those special occasions as worthy of something extra.

Community: Past, Present, and Future | Building Small Groups

Selling Ancient Disciplines to Moderns

I have a friend in ministry who challenges leaders to "Make the Big Ask". His understanding is that people are willing to sacrifice if given a compelling vision.

I have heard consultant warn that we often overestimate what we can accomplish in the short-term and underestimate what we can accomplish in the long-term.

In an era where spiritual disciplines like fasting, solitude, scripture memory and Bible Study (not to be confused with a group of people talking about life issues) are rare. We must be wise in the ways we call people to these ancient practices.

The quote below comes from a posting with some specific suggestions on motivating others to practice spiritual behaviors. If the thought below stir your heart, you can read more at the link on the bottom of the page.

Avoid the Dual Dangers
Two dangers confront us in encouraging spiritual disciplines. One is giving people the impression that it's all up to them—they were saved by grace, but now they had better roll up their sleeves and get to work. One woman in our congregation, for example, returned from a teaching seminar and made six life-changing commitments, including one to meditate daily. I rejoiced in her enthusiasm but cautioned her to be easy on herself. Her five children weren't knocking at her knees when she made her commitments. The challenge of stepping into spiritual disciplines must be tempered with realism.

On the other side are those who believe God does everything. They're content to relax, not wishing to disturb grace by their works. Having walked with the Lord for 20 years, they're still giving the Lord only 5 quick minutes before falling off to sleep at night. Such people may need a kick in the pants rather than a pat on the back.

For example, I recently called George, a member of our congregation, to tell him I expected him at the men's prayer group at 6 the following morning. He wasn't home, so I left the message with his wife. I told her that if he wasn't at the breakfast, I would come over and throw him out of bed.

My wife, who heard me, wondered why I'd spoken so insensitively. The reason could be seen the next morning. When George's alarm went off, he struggled to decide whether to get up. However, when his wife remembered my call and passed on the message, he decided to come. During the prayer meeting, George thanked the Lord for the "encouragement" he'd received from a brother "who cared whether I came." As I explained to my wife, some people need toughness and can handle it. George is a coach who knows both how to give and how to receive a challenge.

Growing as a pastoral leader involves discerning whether a person needs a kick or a pat. I've had church members who responded best to a challenge that demanded everything of them. Those who don't have that kind of motivation may need encouragement bit by bit. Paul struck the balance when he urged believers, "Work out your salvation with fear and trembling," adding that "God is at work within you both to will and to work for his good pleasure."

Selling Ancient Disciplines to Moderns | Building Small Groups

The Ministry Treadmill

I believe this is a common problem for church volunteers and leaders. Does this sound familiar? "I make it a priority to prepare the lesson that I am going to share but I never have quite enough time to do as good of a job as I would like so don't even suggest that I need to spend time contemplating the future."

The quote below probably resonates with your experience.

Have you ever been on the ministry treadmill? Are you so busy with the work of today that you never have the time to plan or dream for the ministry of tomorrow? Determining your vision and future plans takes time. Many pastors and leaders find themselves too busy with the pressing demands of today to take the time to plan for tomorrow. The result is that when tomorrow gets here, you’re still busy doing the day-to-day menial tasks of ministry, and all of a sudden you find that you no longer have a plan or strategy.

I have learned when working on a project I often need to take a few steps back and view my work from a larger perspective.

I don't want reflection and examination to be an additional burden upon you as a leader, but the time spent in contemplation may make you more effective in the tasks at hand.

MondayMorningInsight.com > Thinkholes: The Ministry Treadmill

Choosing the Moment to Lead

I found a great article that highlights a ministry skill that is often missing in young leaders. Young leaders who are driven by vision and passion often forget that others often need time to allow an idea to germinate and blossom before committing their personal resources.

I have found as a teacher that I will often spend weeks mulling over an idea in my head, then when I present it to a group I am surprised at an apparent lack of response immediately.

As I continue to mature as a leader I am learning the value of timing in addition to the quality of ideas.

Great leaders understand the importance of timing, specifically when it comes to making decisions. There are right times to consider issues and right times to make moves. Conversely, even the right issue tackled at the wrong time faces certain defeat.

There is no formula for great timing. It is part instinct, part intuition, part paying attention to surroundings, part prayer life, and all of the above. But it is not guesswork. Leaders who have a good sense of timing seem very wired into their situations while, at the same time, wired into God for a perspective that transcends just what the leader and his or her advisers can see.

Leaders adept at timing know how to read audiences and situations. They have practiced this over the years, testing out their hunches and intuitions. They have learned how to monitor their own internal sensors and when to pay attention to the voices around them and the voice within. Leaders with great timing know how to test the water, sniff the wind, and commit just enough to gauge reaction before committing it all. They risk, but they do not gamble.

Off the Agenda: Choosing the Moment to Lead

Using Parables: How to Teach Like Jesus

I found a good tool teachers can add to their toolbox. Read the quote below and if it prompts some interest, click on the source link for the full article (with some very helpful specifics).

Parables were the storytelling method of choice for our Lord. A parable can be defined as a brief story that can stand alone—like a self-contained module that appeals to the thinking and attitudes of its hearers. There are other ways to tell stories, of course, but I want to focus here on the parable telling (or storytelling) of Jesus. I see them as one and the same, because parables are a particular kind of story.

Using Parables: How to Teach Like Jesus | Building Small Groups

Ten Questions for Ministry Leaders about Relationships

Here is another set of great reflection questions for ministry leaders. ISOLATION is not good...God designed us to live in community!

Are the people closest to me in ministry lifting me higher or dragging me down?

How have I intentionally developed the leaders around me in the past week?

Am I speaking transparently with at least two other close trusted friends on a weekly basis?

Am I submitting myself to the correction and coaching of at least two mentors?

Am I holding a grudge against someone?

Am I speaking well of other ministers?

Am I falling for the temptation of comparing, complaining, criticizing or gossiping?

Are my words and relationships characterized by words of faith or negativity?

Do people enjoy being around me or am I often “down”?

Have a made at least three new ministry friends in the last year?

LifeChurch.tv : swerve

Ten Questions Every Leader Should Ask about His/Her relationship with Christ

I found the following list from a pastor of a mega-church in another state. I think his reflections questions are good for every ministry leader in any size church.

What did I learn in God’s word this week?

Is my burden for prayer growing or diminishing?

Does my heart break for the things that break the heart of God?

Have I grown accustomed to or accepted sin in my life?

Am I doing ministry out of an overflow of God’s work in my heart or out of my own strength?

Has my teaching and ministry deepened, changed, or evolved in a positive way in the last year?

Do I have a sincere peace that I’m living an authentic life of spiritual integrity?

Is my heart growing larger for people and God or is it shrinking?

Am I closer to God today than I was a year ago?

Do others comment that they can clearly see evidence of God’s work in my life?

Ten Questions Every Leader Should Ask at LifeChurch.tv : swerve

How well do you know yourself?

A fuller knowledge of yourself allows you to naturally work from your strength and intentionally seek the Holy Spirit's control of your weaknesses.

What Motivates You?

Want to, get to, have to, called to, must – Which of these attitudes would best describe your last meeting with your students? I will admit that I have encountered each of these at least once in my ministry.
Since today is Saint Patrick’s Day I did a quick internet search and read some of the Wikipedia entry on St. Pat. I was unaware that he so hated Ireland that he left it the first time he was there. He was captured as a slave and taken to Ireland where he served as a herdsman for 6 years before running away from his master and boarding a ship for home. Shortly after returning home he had a vision of a man calling him to return to Ireland as a missionary. This time he went willingly and his impact was quite different. He was accused by others bishops of impropriety, but he remains a hero to the Irish Catholics to this day.
As I reflect upon those I have recruited or hired to work alongside me in my 20 years of ministry. Those who were most effective were not the most talented, but rather, those who sensed a God-given call to be involved in that ministry. Some of you may have received that divine call before starting your current ministry. For others, that calling became clear after humbly surrendering to serve. Still others may be serving out of a love for the type of interaction you receive with your students.
My prayer is that when somebody asks you “Why do you pour so much time into that class or group?” You will honestly be able to say “I know God has called me to do it and I love being in the center of His will.”

Calling brings longevity – John 10:13

Farewell to Favre

It seems these days that the people of Wisconsin are more concerned with the next quarterback of the Green Bay Packers than who will be the next President of the United States.

I found the following post that may serve to help you evaluate your own leadership skills.

After pondering over what made Favre such a great champion, here are a few sentimental observations:

1) He Showed up to Play Every Sunday.

Regardless of what was happening in his life (i.e. his father's death and his wife's cancer), he still found a way to get to the game on time.

2) He Played Through the Hurts.

I've watched just about every Packer game since Favre's debut. I've seen him clobbered, hammered, hamstrung, smashed, and boggled. Yet, Brett kept getting back on his feet again. Remember the year when he played half a season with a broken thumb? Somehow, the desire for victory was far greater than the physical pain.

3) He Took Risks and Made Plenty of Mistakes.

Not only does he hold the career touchdown record, he holds the interception record as well. You can't win big by playing it safe.

4) After He Blew It, He Shook it Off.

Nothing could rattle his confidence. On the next set of downs after an interception, he'd throw deep (and crazy) again. Favre didn't allow failure to be final and always believed that setbacks are supposed to be followed by come-backs.

He never blamed others for his mistakes, and always took responsibility for losses on the field.

5) He Inspired the Team.

Brett always had a good word of encouragement for the younger guys around him. I remember when Ryan Longwell, as a rookie kicker, muffed an easy field goal against the Eagles, and lost the game. The crowd booed. Favre went over to his dejected teammate and said, "Hey, don't worry about it. It's not your fault. We lost this thing together."

6) He Kept Smiling.

The thing I appreciated most about Brett Favre was his enthusiasm and love for football. Most of the time, he really enjoyed himself and was glad to be there.

7) He Didn't Quit Until the Clock Ran Out.

Many players give up when the tide turns against them, but not Brett Favre! He played his heart out every second of every down in the game. Perhaps that's why he led his team to so many last second comeback victories.

Revitalize Your Church: Farewell to Favre

Why don't more people participate?

I have been mulling over the question of why more adults aren’t involved in the superb classes you teach or groups you lead. I’ve come to 2 conclusions.
1. They don’t like it. Like Mikey and his Life cereal, they may not like it because they haven’t even tried it. I’m becoming more and more convinced that the key to getting people to “try it” is personal invitation. We can print brochures, make announcements, and send emails, but personal invitation is paramount. And some people will need to be invited several times. Many people will transfer negative experiences in other groups and automatically perceive that your class will be boring and irrelevant also. What can we do to change that perception? A survey of adults who were previously involved in church but have now dropped out found that many don’t buy into church life because they don’t feel engaged and welcome.
2. They don’t value it. This is actually two observations rolled into one. Some people don’t think the experience will change anything within their day-to-day life and others don’t think they have anything of value to contribute. Conclusions from the survey mentioned in the last point found that "People are looking for a faith that can change them and to be a part of changing the world." None of us are looking for more activities, we all long to make a difference. While leaving an area as undisturbed as possible may be a noble goal for wilderness camping, it is a miserable goal for Christian leadership.
Last week I challenged you to look for things to celebrate within your group. This week I am challenging you to consider how your learners could be changed by your next time together?

"Say So"

What successes have you celebrated with your class/group recently? In yesterday’s sermon Pastor Sean reminded us that although the church at Philadelphia had little strength, He had opened doors for them and they had been faithful to his name.
Sometimes a culture of celebration yields a spirit of hope. I know that I often focus on the things to be corrected rather than taking time to celebrate the successes. It was invigorating for me to celebrate the successful Ladies retreat yesterday!
I would like you to consider 2 steps. 1) reply to this posting with one of your recent successes so that others in the leadership community can celebrate with you. And 2) schedule some time in your next class/group meeting to share successes.
Since I grew up in the fundamentalist Baptist tradition, we often had “say so” meetings on Sunday nights. This was just an opportunity to “let the redeemed of the Lord say so.”

Obvious and Hidden Threats

The last couple of days have been pretty crazy around the Thomas home. You probably heard the flood warnings on the radio Sunday morning. With frozen ground and blocked sewers, residents in low-lying areas were told to prepare for flooding as the rains fell.
While we are nowhere near a natural waterway, we fell prey to that warning. The gutters on our building were solid chunks of ice and as the rain fell, it melted the snow on the roof which caused a torrent of water in the courtyard in front of our home. Ann called for help since she noticed the carpets were wet.
The obvious threat was the standing water in the courtyard. Most thought it was threatening to come over the threshold and flood the house so sandbags were purchased and shovels and brooms were employed to keep the water at bay, but the carpets continued to get wetter and wetter.
When the carpet restoration people arrived they pulled back the carpet to remove the soaked padding and found what I had expected – Two cracks in the floor that were allowing ground water to enter the house even though the threshold was not breached.
What does this have to do with teaching? I’m glad you asked!
While we rightly put much emphasis in crafting a creative, meaningful lesson and take steps to ensure a hospitable environment where learning can take place, damage may be happening in unwatched places. Most teachers rightfully guard the “threshold” of their class/group, but may be unknowingly neglecting their own souls and allowing damage to creep in. Pastor Sean spoke directly to one of these threats on Sunday – lethargy.
Psalm 78:72 tells us that David led with “integrity of heart” and “skill of hand.” Outwardly your students can pretty easily observe your skill of hand. But many leaders have become adept at hiding the weaknesses of our integrity (remember the Televangelist and Priest sex scandals?).
Can I encourage you to take some time today to consider the threats to your foundation before you have a mess on your hands?

Successful Leaders

I came across this blog posting a couple of weeks ago and thought it might encourage you. It was originally written for pastors so I have edited it to reflect volunteer leaders.

Spiritual Passion

To be successful in ministry, perhaps above all else, a leader must have an intense spiritual passion. A typical church attendee might assume that spiritual passion is a “given” for anyone in leadership. Unfortunately, this isn’t always the case.

Ministry is full of passion-killers. The short list could include:

• Education—Many schools, courses and workshops are excellent at educating while helping a student increase passion. Unfortunately, many aren’t.
• Failure—Can cause us to second-guess everything, wondering if we’re really hearing from God.
• Success—Surprising to some, success in ministry can distract one from his first love.
• Criticism—After taking bullets of criticism, some leaders start to wonder if it’s worth it to continue.
• Rejection—Similar to criticism, being rejected from group members (and others) can cause us to become guarded and lose spiritual vigor.
• Life—The normal routines of life (especially church life) can slowly drain away our spiritual passion.

Those who remain spiritually fruitful over decades learn to stoke the flames of passion. Here’s what works for the author of the original blog post:

• Developing friendships with non-Christians
• Staying in God’s word
• Living in an attitude of prayer
• Giving extravagantly
• Resting

Successful Ministers 1 (of 4) at LifeChurch.tv : swerve

How to Authentically Encourage

I recently found this post that suggests practical ways we can be better encouragers to those around us. I have much to learn in this area and you may be able to personally point to my weakness in some of these areas, but we all have room to improve.

1. Active listening. This requires the regular (perhaps daily) discipline of going to those who work for you and checking in with them.

2. Specific praise. Praise early, often, and with specific references. This requires you to be familiar with what is happening in the work of those around you, making active listening all the more valuable.

3. Personal thank-yous. For some leaders, thanking people is a recurring oversight. For others, the ubiquitous nature of e-mail has robbed them of their ability to meaningfully thank others for their hard work. That’s why I am a staunch believer in the power of the hand-written thank-you.

4. Talk about the big picture. How often have you handed a task to a worker, realizing it is mundane, monotonous, perhaps even beneath that worker’s skills and education? Rather than hand it off, sit down with them, explain the task, and then take the extra 30 seconds to say why this seemingly insignificant work plays a very real and important role in the success of the ministry’s bigger vision.

5. Flexibility. Sometimes, the best encouragement we can give means recognizing the people around us are human beings beset with the same headaches and hiccups we deal with. Our flexibility in those situations extends a measure of grace that, in my experience anyway, often is returned to me later with a greater magnitude than I gave.

6. Dig in. What is more discouraging than watching a leader hand off the “lesser” work without chipping in? Dig in to the same work that you ask others around you to do. And when your workload doesn’t permit, be sure those around you understand why you can’t at that particular moment—and that you’re available to intervene should a problem develop.

Off the Agenda: How to Authentically Encourage

I’m Third

I was recently introduced as 'Pastor #2" by someone in our congregation. At first I was honored because I believe I have been gifted by God to lead from the second chair. But a split-second later I questioned in my own mind "Why am I #2 and not #3?" I believe the person who made the introduction was speaking Chronologically, rather than a ranking of priority or power.

We work hard as a staff team to shatter the image of a "corporate ladder" or a "ministry hierarchy." Few things get my dander up quicker than asking an associate pastor when he will become a Senior Pastor or when he will "get a church of his own." I have served in associate, solo and senior roles and each of them was the highest place for me to be at that time because that was exactly where God wanted me to be.

The link below connects to a well-written article that has the premise that we should not strive for first place or even second place, but THIRD place.

As you teach or lead others, I hope you always recognize God to be first priority in your group, but as a leader you should also avoid 2nd place.

The Pastor's Soul, Role, and Home.: I’m Third

10 Ways to Be a Better Listener

Here is the short list, for more explanation on each point check out the link at the end of this post.

Listening is a crucial skill for small-group leaders to master. Here are ten practical tips for improving our listening habits.

1. Be quiet.
2. Try to understand.
3. Eliminate distractions.
4. Empathize.
5. Don't judge.
6. Avoid advising.
7. Verify and clarify.
8. Listen for what is not said.
9. Watch body language.
10. Affirm.

10 Ways to Be a Better Listener | Building Small Groups